How to “affair-proof” your relationship First, a disclaimer: there’s no surefire way to guarantee that your relationship will never be impacted by an affair. On the other hand, in my years of practice helping couples deal with the strains of infidelity, I have observed several measures that will certainly limit the probability of one, while simultaneously maximizing the possibility of an enduring loving connection. Given our hectic lives, it’s all too easy to take our partner for granted. But it … Read More
This interview with Richard Sussman was written for Total Health magazine by his wife, therapist, author and teacher Jaqueline Lapa Sussman, MS, LPC. Based upon years of experience working with couples, Richard Sussman’s perspective encompasses a much more complex understanding than the conventional wisdom might suggest, moving beyond a framework of guilt and blame toward mutual compassion, understanding and trust. Click here to view the article.
The disclosure of an affair can be one of the most devastating events affecting a committed and intimate relationship. The faithful partner’s pain when faced with such betrayal and breach of trust is often too great for the relationship to survive. However, if the couple can weather the initial storm of rage, recrimination, hurt and guilt, in order to develop a perspective that views the affair as a mutual creation with joint but not equal responsibility, it is possible for … Read More